Ok, I need some advice on how to deal with this really weird situation.
Backstory: When I was in middle school, I was really close friends with this girl “J.” We did just about everything together and she was my best friend for a number of years. When we got to high school, she joined the marching band and we grew apart since I was in the “bad kids” clique but I still considered her a close friend. At one point, I threatened one of her boyfriends that if he “hurt her, I’d hurt him” (ugh, high school drama… and man, was I a dumb-ass kid…). Anyways, not long after that, we stopped talking completely which at the time didn’t strike me as weird. I had too much other high school drama going on to really care about it.
In college, I joined MySpace and tried to start talking to her again, not because I wanted to mend fences or be close friends or anything again but just because I had been close to her at one point and I was curious how she was. J responded to my friend request at the time with a “sorry, I’m not ready to be friends with you again” sort of message and I was confused. It hadn’t occurred to me that what I’d done/not done in high school was that bad and that she felt that way about me. I wasn’t too worried about it though and didn’t even really spend time thinking about it.
Several years later, she sends me a friend request on Facebook which I accepted. I didn’t ask her about the MySpace incident because, well, I didn’t really care enough to ask about it. On FB, she would very rarely comment on my posts but never really started a conversation with me. She was generally boring and didn’t post anything interesting either despite posting all the time.
Fast forward to about two years ago and she asks me for my address. I didn’t know why but I gave it to her anyway. Well, not long after, I decided that she was too boring and I didn’t care what she did on FB, so I deleted her. About a month later, a “save the date” for her wedding showed up in my mailbox. I thought that was really weird but I just ignored it.
So, about a month ago, I get an invite to her wedding. Once again, I ignored it because it was just too bizarre and I didn’t know how to respond. Part of me figured that she would get the idea if I just ignored her. But yesterday, she sent me another friend request on FB and told me that the RSVP address on the invitation was wrong but that I could RSVP at another URL.
I’m at a complete loss on how to handle this situation. Why the hell would J send me a wedding invite? And how did the FB de-friending not register before she sent out the invites? I mean, she was very active on FB, posting everyday. Why would someone send a wedding invite to someone that they friend-broke up with in high school? And how did she not get the idea that I wasn’t interested when she had to send me a friend request to talk to me about not RSVP’ing? What should I do next?
